Dorothy Tennov (August 29, – February 3, ) was an American psychologist who, in her book Love and Limerence – the Experience of Being in. Tennov’s central argument, illustrated with accounts from individual experiences, is that there is a well defined and involuntary state “limerence” (a term chosen. As relevant today as it was then, this book offers insight into love, infatuation, Love and Limerence: The Experience of Being in Love Dorothy Tennov.

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And yes that involves thinking somewhat too far sometimes.

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As some sidenotes, the feminist tidbits in this book are also incredibly interesting from an almost historical perspective; and the stories described in here are incredibly touching across the entire range of human emotion. She was a professor of psychology at the University of Bridgeport for twenty years. She has talked about how she and her husband do,not have much in common. Want to Read Currently Reading Read. Posting things you hope she’ll see.

But dangerous to the wrong type of person.

I’m married, 50, no children due to stupidity. New data in the form tejnov voluntary written testimonials poured in from readers of the book. That it may not seem so is a part of the story itself. But we literally held each other for loce 15 minutes in silence just to hold each other.


Submitted by Anonymous on October 6, – 9: I was reminded of this Shakespearean quote, “what’s in a name that which we call a rose but by any other name will smell just as sweet.

Love and Limerence : The Experience of Being in Love

Submitted by Anonymous on April 21, – 9: He has cheated on llve repeatedly with me and it is always very passionate. I notices any similarities we had and felt sad if he wasn’t there.

You’ve forgotten how to tie your shoes. Anatomy of Love Helen E.

Love and Limerence : Dorothy Tennov :

limrrence I remember when I found out about limerence early last year! Servant of the Empire Raymond E. By using our website you agree to our use of cookies.

I found the evolutionary theories and Tennov’s analysis of society a bit off at times. Socially it has widespread effects, most dramatically in marriage and youth suicide. Today he just showed up and made love to me and cried and just held me and I held him as tight as a person can get till our hearts were beating together.

If your feelings of unrequited affection towards someone are causing impairment in your daily life, consider talking to a counselor. It just hurts too much.

Dorothy Tennov

Limerence presents problems for the modern individual, causing inattention to other aspects of life, especially to responsibilities tsnnov to other relationships. I had sought lijerence information from other limerence subjects from: I’m a middle aged man and I discovered the definition of limerence about a year ago — it explains a lot for me.


He has been with her for almost 5 months. It will never be ok as he says he wants to break up w his gf but is afraid to hurt anyone as he hurt me which was more than I can share currently. She’s unavailable and I know it. For a really interesting summary, read the wikipedia article here: On one hand I am relieved to know what I have always felt is just brain chemistry, but on the other hand, I limetence profoundly disappointed to realize tennoov I have never felt nor experienced real love.

Tennov’s central argument, illustrated with accounts from individual experiences, is that there is a well defined and involuntary state “limerence” a term chosen to avoid the confusion surrounding “love”roughly equating with “being in love”. Please your help would be really wanted. This is where the wheels fall off in my opinion. When frustrated, limerence may produce such severe distress as to be life threatening. She asked for a little hug after very successful climb which was very sweet.

Back Find a Therapist. That he will make doeothy ok.

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